Monday, August 4, 2014

High School All Over Again


So my high school reunion is coming up next month.  As soon as I received the invitation I returned it, thinking it might be fun.  Now I'm not so sure.

Now I feel like going back to high school might not be such a good thing after all.  No, I wasn't one of those people who had a miserable experience and I wasn't bullied or anything like that.  I had my share of friends and my share of fun but I was never part of the "in" group, more like the second tier of nice kids who never got into trouble.  I was quiet and introverted but mainly able to hold my own.

Facebook is ruining it for me.  I see many of my classmates friending each other, but not me.  I'm beginning to think no one remembers me.  I have been friended by a few of them and that has led to messaging and liking each others' posts.  It's been fun to hear from them.  However, I am beginning to see long lists of names on others' pages, "so and so is now friends with so and so".  I'm starting to feel left out, like they are having a party and not including me.

I have led a happy life and made many friends since high school.  I was feeling okay about myself and my place in the world.  Now I'm back wanting to be one of the "popular"kids.  I am reverting to teenage angst.  Maybe the reunion isn't such a good idea after all.

9 comments:

Bearette said...

My mom didn't really want to go to hers, but a friend insisted. I think she had an OK time.

Maybe you could friend those people? It's possible they haven't seen you on FB.

judy in ky said...

They might not know my married name. I've noticed a lot of the girls (women now) use their maiden name like a middle name.
I have friended some since I wrote this and several have already responded.
I think part of the difference is I didn't stay in the area and some of them did, so they have seen each other over the years. I moved from Ohio to Chicago then to Philadelphia before we came back here. Now, as you may have guessed, we are going back to Philly.

Bearette said...

You're moving back to Philly??

judy in ky said...

Yes! We bought a condo there. It's going to take a while to be there full-time. We have to get our house here ready to sell.
I can visit New York. I have a friend who moved from Philly to Manhattan about a year ago.

Pam said...

I'm glad I'm not on Facebook. It seems strange though when I go to tell my friends news of my daughter and they say "Oh I know that already - it was on her Facebook'. Half the time they know things before I do and I think "but hold on I'M her Mum!". Does add to feeling excluded but then it's my choice not to be on it - can't wait to hear more news about your move.

Bearette said...

Wow! Exciting. Let me know if you visit NYC :)

judy in ky said...

Definitely!

littlemancat said...

Happy to hear you're returning to Philly! In the city or near-by?
I'm not on FB as it just seems to me to be high school all over again. Liking, being so called un-friended, just seems so silly and superficial to me. Opps - a rant. I do recognize it's a nice way to meet up with old friends and to see lots of pics of grandbabies, but ....
Good luck with the reunion. You are an interesting person with lots to share- you'll be fine!

rachel said...

Go. It can't be as bad as your worst fears, and it could be a whole lot better! My friend had much the same experience last year, same anxieties, and had a great time - but what she did, which I thought was sensible, was to book a hotel away from the general group, which gave her a bolt hole if she needed it. And while you're there, make sure the people you really want to stay in touch with become your friends on FB - although I must say I'm with littlemancat on that subject! - and ignore the rest. (What is the point of having hundreds of 'friends' anyway when it's quite meaningless?) But don't forget to let us know how you got on.

And now I'm a) pleased you're going back to where your heart is, and b) stricken with terror for your beautiful feral cats.......