I don't buy into the whole "fairy tale wedding" thing. Latest case in point: Kim Kardashian. I never thought I would mention her in my blog because I think that whole family has been way over exposed already. But it does give me a perfect example of the wedding becoming more important than the marriage. Yes, she got her "fairy tale wedding". Was that the whole point? To show off in a pretty dress and throw a big expensive party? Fine, but what does that have to do with marriage?
Marriage is serious business. Marriage is for adults. Fairy tales are for children. Excuse me, but I think that by the time a woman is ready to get married she should be finished with fairy tales. So why is the fairy tale wedding so popular these days? Here are just a few examples:
Do you notice a pattern there? Right, it's Disney. Maybe I have a chip on my shoulder when it comes to Disney. I grew up watching Disney movies that were scary and sad. Bambi's mother died. Dumbo's mother was chained and locked up. Old Yeller got rabies and had to be shot. To me, Disney was a real downer and I don't think I'm over it yet. These days Disney encourages little girls to be "princesses". I'm not crazy about that either. I don't think a princess is a good role model for a little girl. The real world just wasn't made for princesses. I don't see the point in growing up expecting to be catered to. I don't think it's a good mindset with which to begin a marriage, either. You get married to be a wife, not a princess.
Will readers think I am being too harsh? I wonder. I have never had a little girl of my own, so I'm not sure how I would handle it. Where does the line get drawn between being a little girl and becoming a grown woman? It just seems to me that the line is being confused with the trend to "fairy tale weddings".
I totally agree with every word you posted there!!
ReplyDeleteJudy, many people believe that the whole thing was just an elaborate publicity stunt and Kris Humphries was chum for the sharks. The Kardashians made over 20 million marketing the wedding.Does that raise your disgust level? Dee
ReplyDeleteI've been thinking about this all morning. Not about the Kardashians. I don't really know who they are, but about the 'princess' thing.
ReplyDeleteI'm maybe an extreme example, because I grew up without a mother. She died when I was barely five, and my childhood was about survival. I was never ill-treated in any way, but we knew that times were tough. Even more so when my father died when I was twelve. There was no time, or inclination, for any princessy stuff, but I often wonder if I missed out.
I see girls/women demanding, "because they're worth it", and sometimes, I really wish that I knew how to do the same. I can't treat myself, even when I have more than enough money to do so.
Perhaps I could do with a course in princessy behaviour!
Frances, thank you for your comment!
ReplyDeleteDee, yes my disgust level is pretty high; that family is too much!
veg artist, I'm so sorry for all that you missed; I hope you learn to treat yourself, of course you do deserve it. My parents never encouraged princessy behavior; maybe that's why I don't understand it either.
I agree with your thoughts on Disney. I have always thought that organization as very subversive.
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